Tag: balance

Hiatus

Hello strangers and whom ever is still following my blog!! I appreciate you all sticking around. And don’t blame ya if you didn’t! The impromptu hiatus came as a result of burn out, imposter syndrome and life.

Sometimes things just get overwhelming. As a sensitive person, feeling energy of others, managing my own mental health… things can get out of hand. And fast! And that’s what happened.

I lost sight of balance. I forgot hot or cope and manage life and myself. So things fell off the to-do list. Which means this blog went quiet.

It’s life. Just how it is. I’m going to try to slowly come back here and there. I won’t make any promises. But I’m going to make an effort to be here.

In the next week I’ll share an update on my novel and where I’m at with it. Yes, I’ve been chugging along on it this whole time. No. I’m not done. And I’ll explain more in another post.

Thanks again for reading! If you enjoy an unapologetic, raw and real writer documenting her journey through life and this world- be sure to subscribe and follow along!

Oh and ps. Drink the water! 💋

Unpopular Opinion

Before I get started let me say this, I am not knocking anyone or bashing the practice of using prompts… I use them all the time on my other social media outlets. I save them for blog post ideas. With that said, there are some things I have noticed that I wanted to simply voice for discussion and thought provoking purposes as I’ve recently pulled away from the prompts and certain things became noticeable.

Being on Instagram and amongst fellow writers, poets and other authors in various stages of the journey is helpful, interesting and often enlightening. But there is a flip side to all that too and further down I’ll explain.

Many use prompts for posts created by various members of the community. Many do not. Once again, I’ll reiterate my sentiments before, there is nothing wrong with either or. This is just my thoughts on it all. To each their own. And I use them too. However, I find pitfalls to both approaches but more recently in using them.

Let me explain!! 

The use of the prompts gives authors and writers a no brainer approach to what to post during the journey- it helps. It takes the guess work out of “I haven’t published yet, but what do I share?” I totally get it. And am in the same boat. I’ve used many prompts for this reason. It’s hard to know what to reveal in order to create interest in the story you’re working on. Here’s the kicker though, I feel as though it’s a crutch in some ways. And often results in over sharing. It starts to feel like a clique, you do every prompt and use the hashtags to go with them and soon the people sharing the same things find you and you are in this little group. That’s great- support is great. But what about those that don’t participate in the prompts or use those hashtags? Are they less worthy of the support? I find that many won’t give your content a second glance if you don’t use the hashtags or prompts. That’s my personal opinion and experience. I guess the question is what are you there on Instagram for?

Some may be there just to share their process, whilst promoting their story. Some are there to promote themselves while trickling in their story and work in progress. And there are I’m sure a million other reasons. The prompts however begin to feel like a constant marketing campaign with little focus on the actual author and just on the process or story. I find this flawed.

Now of course some will say well if you don’t use the hashtags they can’t find you… blah blah blah…. I don’t buy it. Call me crazy but many don’t give you the time of day unless you subscribe to their monthly prompts. Harsh truths. Like I said. Unpopular opinion.

Let’s look at this a different way, I’ve researched a lot on what makes a successful author brand and social media account. I love research. Maybe too much. You know what though, the research is almost unanimous that authors should be sharing more of their lives outside of being an author. Why? Because readers want to know the writer! They don’t care where you are in the journey. Some might. Most don’t. You know who does care- other writers- because we don’t want to feel alone on this crazy road. It feeds the ego when we can share our word counts and progress, I’m not saying don’t celebrate the wins, but the constant focus on win to win to win is exhausting. And sets an unprecedented pace. And I don’t know about you, but I’m not looking to appeal to other writers. I want readers. Other people. Research also showed that you should be sharing other topics, what you hold close to your heart. Now, many authors I follow do this. They don’t do any prompts. They share their lives. There might be updates on their writing journey. But they share their adventures, their struggles with illness, their family, their other passions. And you know what… they’re selling books like hot cakes. See, I observe a lot. I watch people. Habits and notice trends. Of course it is helpful to have the support of other writers! We need to be lifting each other up!! Why don’t we celebrate the non writer material? Why don’t we celebrate the entire person? Not just the craft? And why doesn’t that extend to the writers that don’t use the daily prompts?

There’s some benefit to watching and learning how others approach the craft of writing. Of course there is! And again, I use prompts here and there and also go rogue too. I get more followers from the rogue posts. I reach more people with the rogue posts. Interesting isn’t it? I find the writers that share odd and unusual things about their lives more interesting. I want to hear about their adventures and life. Because they are people like me. I don’t want my entire feed being craft posts, I ask myself all the time if a reader came across my profile what would they see? I hope they’d see a woman, a mother, a spiritual person, a nature lover, a writer, an artist, a passionate woman, a woman who struggles in mental health and so much more… I hope they don’t just see me as a writer. I am so much more than that.

To wrap this up, I will once again say, I am not bashing or discrediting those that do prompts. I do them sometimes too. If that’s what you want to post, what your focus is on, that’s great. To each their own. I am merely sharing my thoughts on the subject. And if that means I speak about topics with an unpopular opinion, than so be it.

Hi New Faces!!

Morning everyone!! (It’s Sunday morning for me.) or afternoon, evening… depending on where you are. Hope it’s been good to you so far! I wanted to say hello to many of you that have come by after my post on Instagram! Thank you all so much for checking it out!!

I started this blog/website originally a year ago, it didn’t go far, I got overwhelmed and couldn’t keep it up. So it went dormant. And now, I feel much more prepared to balance this and my other social media pages. I’m so excited to see where this goes!!

If there’s anything weird, confusing about the page please let me know!! Haha, I am no pro at this and there are always things that seems to not work how I’d like or weirdness that I might miss. So please, if you have constructive feedback on anything that is off, or anything you’d like to see here. Please don’t hesitate to comment!! I truly want to give as much as I can of myself here and give you content that you enjoy reading!

Sunday’s are my usual days to post, there may be a poetry or random thought post in the middle of the week too. Ya just never know!!!

I’ve been in a writing slump for some time now and that’s okay, ebb and flow, sometimes the writing comes in floods. And other times it’s a darn drought! I know enough of my self though that when I’m creative elsewhere, if I’m working with clients and creating for their books. My creative juice is flowing for them. And that is completely okay!! I am actually honored to give them that part of me.

I am also embarking on a new book project of my own, handwritten, completely designed by myself. I’ll include an example of what it might look like… to give ya a taste.

Coming soon!!

This is merely a morsel of what’s to come! Let me know what you think!!

I hope you all have a wonderful week ahead, stay safe out there and drink your water!! (I say it as a reminder more for me than you but still!!)

Writing Woes

Well, happy December 1st! We made it! I hope you all are fairing well and whatever may be happening in your day to day isn’t too stressful and overwhelming. I know with the way the world is right now, everyone is struggling in different but significant ways. So hang in there!!

Ever feel like your writing is just… crap? Yea?! I’m right there too. I’m 3/4 of the way done with my novel… phew that’s huge! Except, I hit a huge wall in my storyline. Certain things are out of place, there’s a few plot holes that need fixing, and the pacing is a bit rough. And I’ve got 25k left to write. Yikes!!!

BUT THAT’S OKAY!!!! It’s a rough draft for a reason!! (I keep reminding myself that but I’m still struggling…)

Apparently the message I received last week about my snippet (which I discuss under “When someone “helps.”) apparently that is still getting to me. Psyching me out. I will admit my confidence is fragile with the novel. I’m trying really hard to get it in check. And go easy on myself. That’s really hard for me though.

I’m tempted to edit what I have so far, I think it’ll give me a better idea on where to go in the end. I know how it ends… I just can’t seem to get there yet. Frustrating.

Outlining and planning have been my friend in the past, so maybe I can get away with doing that for the end and hold off on editing. I’m not sure. I’m merely venting and sharing my woes.

You’re not alone. Write the thing. You got this.

Enjoy the day and keep pressing forward. You’ve got this. Today is short and sweet. Talk to ya later!

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Balancing Beam

You ever teeter more than you’d like, tipping in one direction compared to another? I do. With life and passion, with dreams and responsibility there is always a balancing act happening. Some days, I don’t feel like I have it together. Like my equilibrium is damaged. First and foremost I’m a mom to a very active four year old, who…