Tag: life

Hiatus

Hello strangers and whom ever is still following my blog!! I appreciate you all sticking around. And don’t blame ya if you didn’t! The impromptu hiatus came as a result of burn out, imposter syndrome and life.

Sometimes things just get overwhelming. As a sensitive person, feeling energy of others, managing my own mental health… things can get out of hand. And fast! And that’s what happened.

I lost sight of balance. I forgot hot or cope and manage life and myself. So things fell off the to-do list. Which means this blog went quiet.

It’s life. Just how it is. I’m going to try to slowly come back here and there. I won’t make any promises. But I’m going to make an effort to be here.

In the next week I’ll share an update on my novel and where I’m at with it. Yes, I’ve been chugging along on it this whole time. No. I’m not done. And I’ll explain more in another post.

Thanks again for reading! If you enjoy an unapologetic, raw and real writer documenting her journey through life and this world- be sure to subscribe and follow along!

Oh and ps. Drink the water! 💋

Editing the First Draft

The first draft. Red pen at the ready.

Happy Monday beautiful people!! I hope you all are doing amazing and hanging in there. A lot of the United States is experiencing weird weather and all sorts of things going on.

I missed the last two weeks, life just got in the way. It happens. I could beat myself up over it but honestly, why? This isn’t a bigger priority over my other responsibilities. So meh. 😜

First draft edits began a week ago or so, and phew! Let me say that damn this is the hard part. I am not loving it. Finding my rhythm and method has taken a lot of painful hours of me staring at my computer and printed manuscript wondering what the hell do I do next? It’s sucked. Totally sucked. BUT! I found an amazing asset, an amazing tool….

ProWriting Aid!

ProWriting Aid is INCREDIBLE! This post is not at all affiliated with the program. It’s amazing for any and all writers of all kinds of skill sets. Not just novel writers. You upload your work, I suggest doing chapter by chapter- it goes faster. And it scans and analyzes the entire chapter. It looks at everything. Adverbs. Grammar issues. Pacing. Spelling. Sentence structure. Sticky sentences. Repeated words. The list goes on and on!! YOU NEED THIS APP!

My biggest hurtle in editing was not knowing where my weak points were in my work. This took the guess work out and showed them all to me. Heck yea!!

So. I am excited about editing now. Fixing plot hole and strengthening the story. Then addressing these things in ProWriter Aid… which is a free plugin attachment available for download using Chrome. With a Premium account for a yearly fee. And it honestly was not that expensive! You should check it out!

I hope this might’ve been some help to you. That’s all I’ve got for ya. Next week I’ll be sharing some thoughts on this book series I read in a little over a week. The first books I’ve read in over 4 years… gasp! I know!!!! Okay. Have fun! Drink water! Grab some sunshine and smile!! It helps!!

Unpopular Opinion

Before I get started let me say this, I am not knocking anyone or bashing the practice of using prompts… I use them all the time on my other social media outlets. I save them for blog post ideas. With that said, there are some things I have noticed that I wanted to simply voice for discussion and thought provoking purposes as I’ve recently pulled away from the prompts and certain things became noticeable.

Being on Instagram and amongst fellow writers, poets and other authors in various stages of the journey is helpful, interesting and often enlightening. But there is a flip side to all that too and further down I’ll explain.

Many use prompts for posts created by various members of the community. Many do not. Once again, I’ll reiterate my sentiments before, there is nothing wrong with either or. This is just my thoughts on it all. To each their own. And I use them too. However, I find pitfalls to both approaches but more recently in using them.

Let me explain!! 

The use of the prompts gives authors and writers a no brainer approach to what to post during the journey- it helps. It takes the guess work out of “I haven’t published yet, but what do I share?” I totally get it. And am in the same boat. I’ve used many prompts for this reason. It’s hard to know what to reveal in order to create interest in the story you’re working on. Here’s the kicker though, I feel as though it’s a crutch in some ways. And often results in over sharing. It starts to feel like a clique, you do every prompt and use the hashtags to go with them and soon the people sharing the same things find you and you are in this little group. That’s great- support is great. But what about those that don’t participate in the prompts or use those hashtags? Are they less worthy of the support? I find that many won’t give your content a second glance if you don’t use the hashtags or prompts. That’s my personal opinion and experience. I guess the question is what are you there on Instagram for?

Some may be there just to share their process, whilst promoting their story. Some are there to promote themselves while trickling in their story and work in progress. And there are I’m sure a million other reasons. The prompts however begin to feel like a constant marketing campaign with little focus on the actual author and just on the process or story. I find this flawed.

Now of course some will say well if you don’t use the hashtags they can’t find you… blah blah blah…. I don’t buy it. Call me crazy but many don’t give you the time of day unless you subscribe to their monthly prompts. Harsh truths. Like I said. Unpopular opinion.

Let’s look at this a different way, I’ve researched a lot on what makes a successful author brand and social media account. I love research. Maybe too much. You know what though, the research is almost unanimous that authors should be sharing more of their lives outside of being an author. Why? Because readers want to know the writer! They don’t care where you are in the journey. Some might. Most don’t. You know who does care- other writers- because we don’t want to feel alone on this crazy road. It feeds the ego when we can share our word counts and progress, I’m not saying don’t celebrate the wins, but the constant focus on win to win to win is exhausting. And sets an unprecedented pace. And I don’t know about you, but I’m not looking to appeal to other writers. I want readers. Other people. Research also showed that you should be sharing other topics, what you hold close to your heart. Now, many authors I follow do this. They don’t do any prompts. They share their lives. There might be updates on their writing journey. But they share their adventures, their struggles with illness, their family, their other passions. And you know what… they’re selling books like hot cakes. See, I observe a lot. I watch people. Habits and notice trends. Of course it is helpful to have the support of other writers! We need to be lifting each other up!! Why don’t we celebrate the non writer material? Why don’t we celebrate the entire person? Not just the craft? And why doesn’t that extend to the writers that don’t use the daily prompts?

There’s some benefit to watching and learning how others approach the craft of writing. Of course there is! And again, I use prompts here and there and also go rogue too. I get more followers from the rogue posts. I reach more people with the rogue posts. Interesting isn’t it? I find the writers that share odd and unusual things about their lives more interesting. I want to hear about their adventures and life. Because they are people like me. I don’t want my entire feed being craft posts, I ask myself all the time if a reader came across my profile what would they see? I hope they’d see a woman, a mother, a spiritual person, a nature lover, a writer, an artist, a passionate woman, a woman who struggles in mental health and so much more… I hope they don’t just see me as a writer. I am so much more than that.

To wrap this up, I will once again say, I am not bashing or discrediting those that do prompts. I do them sometimes too. If that’s what you want to post, what your focus is on, that’s great. To each their own. I am merely sharing my thoughts on the subject. And if that means I speak about topics with an unpopular opinion, than so be it.

Happy Holidays

Happy Holidays!! It’s a few days past Christmas and reflecting on it this year has me feeling very thankful for the family and friends I have this year. It’s been a rough year. For everyone.

This year was my first year hosting a holiday and while it was small and intimate, I was flustered and anxious to do it right. I got the good plates out and the good glasses too. Make sure the water spots on the silverware was rubbed off and had candles lit to give a nice smell and ambiance to the rooms. It was a really nice night.

My family has been very fortunate through the crazy this year. We were affected very little by the shutdowns, the economy didn’t fluctuate much for our income. We were very fortunate. I realize not many can say the same. It is my hope that this year has made us kinder, gentler and more understanding. That while there is many reasons to be upset and anxious, to lash out or melt down, that we remember most of us are all doing the best we can. And this year didn’t give us much room to wiggle with it.

I hope the holiday season has been gentle to you. And if you have friends and family unable to be with you, for whichever reason. Be kind to them and love them, call and check on them. This is a time to truly band together and remember our hearts.

Drink your water, enjoy some chocolate and pause in the night as it snows if you can because I think it’ll cleanse your soul a bit.

Balancing Beam

You ever teeter more than you’d like, tipping in one direction compared to another? I do. With life and passion, with dreams and responsibility there is always a balancing act happening. Some days, I don’t feel like I have it together. Like my equilibrium is damaged. First and foremost I’m a mom to a very active four year old, who…