Tag: Mom

I’m a mom.

Unpopular Opinion

Before I get started let me say this, I am not knocking anyone or bashing the practice of using prompts… I use them all the time on my other social media outlets. I save them for blog post ideas. With that said, there are some things I have noticed that I wanted to simply voice for discussion and thought provoking purposes as I’ve recently pulled away from the prompts and certain things became noticeable.

Being on Instagram and amongst fellow writers, poets and other authors in various stages of the journey is helpful, interesting and often enlightening. But there is a flip side to all that too and further down I’ll explain.

Many use prompts for posts created by various members of the community. Many do not. Once again, I’ll reiterate my sentiments before, there is nothing wrong with either or. This is just my thoughts on it all. To each their own. And I use them too. However, I find pitfalls to both approaches but more recently in using them.

Let me explain!! 

The use of the prompts gives authors and writers a no brainer approach to what to post during the journey- it helps. It takes the guess work out of “I haven’t published yet, but what do I share?” I totally get it. And am in the same boat. I’ve used many prompts for this reason. It’s hard to know what to reveal in order to create interest in the story you’re working on. Here’s the kicker though, I feel as though it’s a crutch in some ways. And often results in over sharing. It starts to feel like a clique, you do every prompt and use the hashtags to go with them and soon the people sharing the same things find you and you are in this little group. That’s great- support is great. But what about those that don’t participate in the prompts or use those hashtags? Are they less worthy of the support? I find that many won’t give your content a second glance if you don’t use the hashtags or prompts. That’s my personal opinion and experience. I guess the question is what are you there on Instagram for?

Some may be there just to share their process, whilst promoting their story. Some are there to promote themselves while trickling in their story and work in progress. And there are I’m sure a million other reasons. The prompts however begin to feel like a constant marketing campaign with little focus on the actual author and just on the process or story. I find this flawed.

Now of course some will say well if you don’t use the hashtags they can’t find you… blah blah blah…. I don’t buy it. Call me crazy but many don’t give you the time of day unless you subscribe to their monthly prompts. Harsh truths. Like I said. Unpopular opinion.

Let’s look at this a different way, I’ve researched a lot on what makes a successful author brand and social media account. I love research. Maybe too much. You know what though, the research is almost unanimous that authors should be sharing more of their lives outside of being an author. Why? Because readers want to know the writer! They don’t care where you are in the journey. Some might. Most don’t. You know who does care- other writers- because we don’t want to feel alone on this crazy road. It feeds the ego when we can share our word counts and progress, I’m not saying don’t celebrate the wins, but the constant focus on win to win to win is exhausting. And sets an unprecedented pace. And I don’t know about you, but I’m not looking to appeal to other writers. I want readers. Other people. Research also showed that you should be sharing other topics, what you hold close to your heart. Now, many authors I follow do this. They don’t do any prompts. They share their lives. There might be updates on their writing journey. But they share their adventures, their struggles with illness, their family, their other passions. And you know what… they’re selling books like hot cakes. See, I observe a lot. I watch people. Habits and notice trends. Of course it is helpful to have the support of other writers! We need to be lifting each other up!! Why don’t we celebrate the non writer material? Why don’t we celebrate the entire person? Not just the craft? And why doesn’t that extend to the writers that don’t use the daily prompts?

There’s some benefit to watching and learning how others approach the craft of writing. Of course there is! And again, I use prompts here and there and also go rogue too. I get more followers from the rogue posts. I reach more people with the rogue posts. Interesting isn’t it? I find the writers that share odd and unusual things about their lives more interesting. I want to hear about their adventures and life. Because they are people like me. I don’t want my entire feed being craft posts, I ask myself all the time if a reader came across my profile what would they see? I hope they’d see a woman, a mother, a spiritual person, a nature lover, a writer, an artist, a passionate woman, a woman who struggles in mental health and so much more… I hope they don’t just see me as a writer. I am so much more than that.

To wrap this up, I will once again say, I am not bashing or discrediting those that do prompts. I do them sometimes too. If that’s what you want to post, what your focus is on, that’s great. To each their own. I am merely sharing my thoughts on the subject. And if that means I speak about topics with an unpopular opinion, than so be it.

Hi New Faces!!

Morning everyone!! (It’s Sunday morning for me.) or afternoon, evening… depending on where you are. Hope it’s been good to you so far! I wanted to say hello to many of you that have come by after my post on Instagram! Thank you all so much for checking it out!!

I started this blog/website originally a year ago, it didn’t go far, I got overwhelmed and couldn’t keep it up. So it went dormant. And now, I feel much more prepared to balance this and my other social media pages. I’m so excited to see where this goes!!

If there’s anything weird, confusing about the page please let me know!! Haha, I am no pro at this and there are always things that seems to not work how I’d like or weirdness that I might miss. So please, if you have constructive feedback on anything that is off, or anything you’d like to see here. Please don’t hesitate to comment!! I truly want to give as much as I can of myself here and give you content that you enjoy reading!

Sunday’s are my usual days to post, there may be a poetry or random thought post in the middle of the week too. Ya just never know!!!

I’ve been in a writing slump for some time now and that’s okay, ebb and flow, sometimes the writing comes in floods. And other times it’s a darn drought! I know enough of my self though that when I’m creative elsewhere, if I’m working with clients and creating for their books. My creative juice is flowing for them. And that is completely okay!! I am actually honored to give them that part of me.

I am also embarking on a new book project of my own, handwritten, completely designed by myself. I’ll include an example of what it might look like… to give ya a taste.

Coming soon!!

This is merely a morsel of what’s to come! Let me know what you think!!

I hope you all have a wonderful week ahead, stay safe out there and drink your water!! (I say it as a reminder more for me than you but still!!)

Happy Holidays

Happy Holidays!! It’s a few days past Christmas and reflecting on it this year has me feeling very thankful for the family and friends I have this year. It’s been a rough year. For everyone.

This year was my first year hosting a holiday and while it was small and intimate, I was flustered and anxious to do it right. I got the good plates out and the good glasses too. Make sure the water spots on the silverware was rubbed off and had candles lit to give a nice smell and ambiance to the rooms. It was a really nice night.

My family has been very fortunate through the crazy this year. We were affected very little by the shutdowns, the economy didn’t fluctuate much for our income. We were very fortunate. I realize not many can say the same. It is my hope that this year has made us kinder, gentler and more understanding. That while there is many reasons to be upset and anxious, to lash out or melt down, that we remember most of us are all doing the best we can. And this year didn’t give us much room to wiggle with it.

I hope the holiday season has been gentle to you. And if you have friends and family unable to be with you, for whichever reason. Be kind to them and love them, call and check on them. This is a time to truly band together and remember our hearts.

Drink your water, enjoy some chocolate and pause in the night as it snows if you can because I think it’ll cleanse your soul a bit.

What a Week!

Hello readers!! Welcome back! It’s a new week!! Happy Monday to everyone and phew let’s hope this week goes better than the last!! Last week was the longest ever.

It’s been a good week since my last post, I started off pretty hot and heavy here and fizzled out. Kind of my MO. But ah well. Such is life. Last week began with my sister being in the hospital. She’s fine. Not Covid. She went in for severe abdominal pain and had to have surgery to remove her gallbladder. Her liver though was quite inflamed and bought her a couple more days in the hospital. Scary for sure. Thankfully she’s fine.

My writing has completely shut down in terms of my novel, I decided to re-outline what I had written so far and double check pacing. Looking for plot holes and making notes of anything to add. It was a quick alternative to editing what I had written. And it really helped. I’m excited for what’s to come and anxious to see the book come to an end. Book two I’m super excited for, there’s so much history and research involved. It’s going to be a lot of fun to write.

In other news I’m readying my house for Christmas and getting everything prepped and ready for the holiday that is fast approaching. It’ll be here before we know it!! I’m so excited to see my lil dudes face this year!! How are you all handling the approaching holiday?? Getting things ready?!

My other question is this… I see a lot of authors on Instagram use a greeting of sorts, “hey there wayfarers, stargazers, sirens…” is that something you enjoy or do you roll your eyes a bit reading it?! Let me know! Drop a comment!!

Have a wonderful day and week ahead, posting will be once a week unless something pressing arrives and I can’t wait to share it. Drink your water, get the fresh air and enjoy the little moments!!

Balancing Beam

You ever teeter more than you’d like, tipping in one direction compared to another? I do. With life and passion, with dreams and responsibility there is always a balancing act happening. Some days, I don’t feel like I have it together. Like my equilibrium is damaged. First and foremost I’m a mom to a very active four year old, who…

Face Reveal

Hello again!! Here’s my face. Lol.

I’ll properly introduce myself. Hi, I’m Tilly.

I don’t typically share my face, at least not very often. I prefer it that way. When I began writing and sharing on Instagram I didn’t feel comfortable putting my face out there. There’s a lot of creeps and I just wanted my work to stand on its own. So I created my infamous avatar. Which looks just like me. It became the face of Tilly.

I’ll never remove the avatar. It is who I am. It’s what I’m known for. It’s how people know it’s me. But I understand how having a real face to connect to can help readers. So I’ll share my face from time to time.

To be completely honest, I was scared to share my face. When I began sharing my poetry on Instagram it was a lot of bleeding out my trauma. Because of the nature of my writing and where I live, I was worried my abuser would find my account if it was attached to my face. So anonymously posting was better for me. Which leads me to reveal that my real name is not Tilly. It’s a pen name. My real name won’t be shared though. A little mystery is good for ya. 😉

I hope you enjoyed this little snippet. And seeing my face.

Where it all began…

When I joined Instagram over a year and a half ago I had no intention of writing poetry again. It was something I had done in my past but certainly not recently.

After 6 months in the poetry community I put my first self published poetry book out. Something I never imagined that I would do.

And then nearly a year later I self published my second poetry book. But during that time I had written a piece for a prompt. I was given a song lyric… “he’s coming back from somewhere he never should’ve been..” it’s from The Thunder Rolls by Garth Brooks. A song I was actual fond of and had grown up with.

I wrote two pieces for the prompt. And one… had something to it… it had a story. I was inspired to write a part two… giving the characters more interaction and history, then a part three, and that eventually went on to be six parts. People were hooked and so was I. And that is where The Fractured Veil was born.

Below you’ll see the original poem to begin the journey into Emric and Arryn’s story.

“Curtains of snow blankets the hills as it falls effortlessly from the frozen sky above,
Not a whisper would be uttered as the shadow people slipped from their hell,
The trees protested softly echoing their disdain for the touch of darkness that fell,
Without warning there was one that could quiet the moans of the suffering, emerging,
He returned from somewhere he never should’ve been, but called to the cause,
He’d never turn down a chance to right his own sins, marked by the darkness only the brave would ever mention, for fear of merely speaking it into existence,
Battle scars and wounds delivered from this life or the last, they lie deeply embedded into the soul he truly for forever resented,
Called upon by the angels that fell, to ferry the very beings he battled once beside satan in hell, As they make their way across the veil, he will forever be carrying the weight a reaper knows too well, charged with the duty to keep order among the light, he knows this is everlasting souls plight,
Collecting of the artifacts cast out by the witches of old times, he would not be troubled by their sinister crimes, their evil could not penetrate the armor given by Mephostopheles himself, there is no telling of the demons he’s seen but he is of their kind if you can read his tell, but who could, a seer to see him for the man beneath it all, she was always the one to help behind the scenes to deliver a light for him to unfreeze, he was always coming back from somewhere he never should have been, understanding his heart and soul was tarnished with a curse beyond our comprehension of old, he hunted them down wherever they may roam, often traveling between the two worlds, a sinister hunter, a collector, his very own bringer of a doomsday spell, to her, hell existed on earth and she’d hold him close for all she was worth, as his feet crunches the snow of this land, he remembers how it felt to feel the brush of her hand, her warmth unlike that of anyone else he had known, she saw him for more, what it was, was unknown, he knew he’d never leave this earth and for her sake he hoped she’d stay with him to remain his hearth.”

Hope to see you come back for more, be sure to like the blog, submit your email for notifications of most recent blog posts so you don’t miss any exciting material!! Remember to drink water and be safe!!