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Hiatus

Hello strangers and whom ever is still following my blog!! I appreciate you all sticking around. And don’t blame ya if you didn’t! The impromptu hiatus came as a result of burn out, imposter syndrome and life.

Sometimes things just get overwhelming. As a sensitive person, feeling energy of others, managing my own mental health… things can get out of hand. And fast! And that’s what happened.

I lost sight of balance. I forgot hot or cope and manage life and myself. So things fell off the to-do list. Which means this blog went quiet.

It’s life. Just how it is. I’m going to try to slowly come back here and there. I won’t make any promises. But I’m going to make an effort to be here.

In the next week I’ll share an update on my novel and where I’m at with it. Yes, I’ve been chugging along on it this whole time. No. I’m not done. And I’ll explain more in another post.

Thanks again for reading! If you enjoy an unapologetic, raw and real writer documenting her journey through life and this world- be sure to subscribe and follow along!

Oh and ps. Drink the water! 💋

Unpopular Opinion

Before I get started let me say this, I am not knocking anyone or bashing the practice of using prompts… I use them all the time on my other social media outlets. I save them for blog post ideas. With that said, there are some things I have noticed that I wanted to simply voice for discussion and thought provoking purposes as I’ve recently pulled away from the prompts and certain things became noticeable.

Being on Instagram and amongst fellow writers, poets and other authors in various stages of the journey is helpful, interesting and often enlightening. But there is a flip side to all that too and further down I’ll explain.

Many use prompts for posts created by various members of the community. Many do not. Once again, I’ll reiterate my sentiments before, there is nothing wrong with either or. This is just my thoughts on it all. To each their own. And I use them too. However, I find pitfalls to both approaches but more recently in using them.

Let me explain!! 

The use of the prompts gives authors and writers a no brainer approach to what to post during the journey- it helps. It takes the guess work out of “I haven’t published yet, but what do I share?” I totally get it. And am in the same boat. I’ve used many prompts for this reason. It’s hard to know what to reveal in order to create interest in the story you’re working on. Here’s the kicker though, I feel as though it’s a crutch in some ways. And often results in over sharing. It starts to feel like a clique, you do every prompt and use the hashtags to go with them and soon the people sharing the same things find you and you are in this little group. That’s great- support is great. But what about those that don’t participate in the prompts or use those hashtags? Are they less worthy of the support? I find that many won’t give your content a second glance if you don’t use the hashtags or prompts. That’s my personal opinion and experience. I guess the question is what are you there on Instagram for?

Some may be there just to share their process, whilst promoting their story. Some are there to promote themselves while trickling in their story and work in progress. And there are I’m sure a million other reasons. The prompts however begin to feel like a constant marketing campaign with little focus on the actual author and just on the process or story. I find this flawed.

Now of course some will say well if you don’t use the hashtags they can’t find you… blah blah blah…. I don’t buy it. Call me crazy but many don’t give you the time of day unless you subscribe to their monthly prompts. Harsh truths. Like I said. Unpopular opinion.

Let’s look at this a different way, I’ve researched a lot on what makes a successful author brand and social media account. I love research. Maybe too much. You know what though, the research is almost unanimous that authors should be sharing more of their lives outside of being an author. Why? Because readers want to know the writer! They don’t care where you are in the journey. Some might. Most don’t. You know who does care- other writers- because we don’t want to feel alone on this crazy road. It feeds the ego when we can share our word counts and progress, I’m not saying don’t celebrate the wins, but the constant focus on win to win to win is exhausting. And sets an unprecedented pace. And I don’t know about you, but I’m not looking to appeal to other writers. I want readers. Other people. Research also showed that you should be sharing other topics, what you hold close to your heart. Now, many authors I follow do this. They don’t do any prompts. They share their lives. There might be updates on their writing journey. But they share their adventures, their struggles with illness, their family, their other passions. And you know what… they’re selling books like hot cakes. See, I observe a lot. I watch people. Habits and notice trends. Of course it is helpful to have the support of other writers! We need to be lifting each other up!! Why don’t we celebrate the non writer material? Why don’t we celebrate the entire person? Not just the craft? And why doesn’t that extend to the writers that don’t use the daily prompts?

There’s some benefit to watching and learning how others approach the craft of writing. Of course there is! And again, I use prompts here and there and also go rogue too. I get more followers from the rogue posts. I reach more people with the rogue posts. Interesting isn’t it? I find the writers that share odd and unusual things about their lives more interesting. I want to hear about their adventures and life. Because they are people like me. I don’t want my entire feed being craft posts, I ask myself all the time if a reader came across my profile what would they see? I hope they’d see a woman, a mother, a spiritual person, a nature lover, a writer, an artist, a passionate woman, a woman who struggles in mental health and so much more… I hope they don’t just see me as a writer. I am so much more than that.

To wrap this up, I will once again say, I am not bashing or discrediting those that do prompts. I do them sometimes too. If that’s what you want to post, what your focus is on, that’s great. To each their own. I am merely sharing my thoughts on the subject. And if that means I speak about topics with an unpopular opinion, than so be it.

Well, this it is with surreal excitement that I can say I’ve finished the first draft of Seraphim, book one of Trials of the Outborn series.

LIKE WHAT!!??

I set that goal for myself a few days ago, the end of this particular path in sight, the light at the end of the tunnel could be seen blinking it’s beautiful sparks at me. And I arrived at the clearing and am currently basking in the glow of this new light. The writing journey is a series of these paths, each one unique to the writer of course but to the story, to the genre and to the moment, so many variables. For me, this path consisted of a fiery beginning when the story came to light. When Emric came to me in a dream like place and opened my eyes to this love that could survive centuries. I traveled along the road with Emric, seemingly easy, paved and well laid out until the road quickly turned to gravel and shortly after to quicksand. Swallowing me whole, I remained lost in this place, circling about and wondering where to turn, how to change the scene, where would help come from and if it would ever find me. The story stalled. And I wept, I cringed and had to put it down. Laying myself within the clutches of burn out and quicksand, up was down, and down was up, no left or right just spinning in thought.

Until a slippery moment surfaced and life was breathed deep into my lungs finally. The sand was coughed out and cleared, the trees parted and I saw a tiny foot path, just wide enough for me to explore. It was slick with uncertainty and still I pressed on, driven by a force that refused to led up. That was when I wrote my novella, a spin off, a prequel to Seraphim. Unknowing it was the fuel I needed to jump back in and travel again alongside Emric. And with the words of a dear friend, I dove into the depths of this trail, mostly submerged, waist deep in muck and gruel. Still, the voices of my characters pushed me through. The support of my friends made me keep going. Holding me accountable, providing room to vent and breathe and scream when the trial seemed hopeless. Still I kept going.

I’m so glad that I’ve come through, the path changed again, become dry and lighter, easier to travel along. It became a race to the finish line. Distractions arose and tried to stop me. But I continued. And here I am. On the other side of that path. The meadow here of flowers and butterflies has me resting and catching my breath. I’ll lay here for a bit I think.

The next path is unknown, uncharted territory. But I’m preparing my maps, preparing my tools and weaponry. I will face the awaiting trail in earnest. Here’s to the editing process!

I will keep you posted in my progress. The goal is to post every Sunday. At the least. I do hope you are enjoying your day and getting sleep. Drink your water. And breathe some fresh air! It’ll help your soul. I promise. Till next time. 🕯

It’s been a while!!! HI!!

Well hello there, I apologize for my absence but I really don’t have any excuse. Life is life and sometimes things fall off the radar as more important things come into focus. That’s just how life works. Being a busy mom of a non stop toddler, writing my own trilogy and running a small business doing book covers and formatting them, the blog kind of slipped off. Not that I didn’t want to come here and share what I’ve been up to but honestly, it just never happened. Ahh well!

So what have I been up to…? Well! I wrote a book, a novella, and was super excited for it!! Still am! However, this book was more of a prequel to the series I was working on and tabled last year… after sending it to a handful of beta readers I realized I couldn’t release this before book one of the trilogy. Soooooo. I turned my attentions to the novel. Where I rewrote most of it. And am nearly finished with it. It’s been a wild ride!! And I’m excited to share more of the characters. If you’re familiar with The Fractured Veil then you know a lot already. I’ll follow this blog up with a special post for the trilogy title and book ones title.

If you’re just joining don’t worry! I’ll have lots to share and plan on being here on a regular basis. Thanks again for sticking around and if you’re just joining. Thanks for reading!!!

Remember to breathe, get some fresh air and drink your water today!

Hi New Faces!!

Morning everyone!! (It’s Sunday morning for me.) or afternoon, evening… depending on where you are. Hope it’s been good to you so far! I wanted to say hello to many of you that have come by after my post on Instagram! Thank you all so much for checking it out!!

I started this blog/website originally a year ago, it didn’t go far, I got overwhelmed and couldn’t keep it up. So it went dormant. And now, I feel much more prepared to balance this and my other social media pages. I’m so excited to see where this goes!!

If there’s anything weird, confusing about the page please let me know!! Haha, I am no pro at this and there are always things that seems to not work how I’d like or weirdness that I might miss. So please, if you have constructive feedback on anything that is off, or anything you’d like to see here. Please don’t hesitate to comment!! I truly want to give as much as I can of myself here and give you content that you enjoy reading!

Sunday’s are my usual days to post, there may be a poetry or random thought post in the middle of the week too. Ya just never know!!!

I’ve been in a writing slump for some time now and that’s okay, ebb and flow, sometimes the writing comes in floods. And other times it’s a darn drought! I know enough of my self though that when I’m creative elsewhere, if I’m working with clients and creating for their books. My creative juice is flowing for them. And that is completely okay!! I am actually honored to give them that part of me.

I am also embarking on a new book project of my own, handwritten, completely designed by myself. I’ll include an example of what it might look like… to give ya a taste.

Coming soon!!

This is merely a morsel of what’s to come! Let me know what you think!!

I hope you all have a wonderful week ahead, stay safe out there and drink your water!! (I say it as a reminder more for me than you but still!!)

Happy Holidays

Happy Holidays!! It’s a few days past Christmas and reflecting on it this year has me feeling very thankful for the family and friends I have this year. It’s been a rough year. For everyone.

This year was my first year hosting a holiday and while it was small and intimate, I was flustered and anxious to do it right. I got the good plates out and the good glasses too. Make sure the water spots on the silverware was rubbed off and had candles lit to give a nice smell and ambiance to the rooms. It was a really nice night.

My family has been very fortunate through the crazy this year. We were affected very little by the shutdowns, the economy didn’t fluctuate much for our income. We were very fortunate. I realize not many can say the same. It is my hope that this year has made us kinder, gentler and more understanding. That while there is many reasons to be upset and anxious, to lash out or melt down, that we remember most of us are all doing the best we can. And this year didn’t give us much room to wiggle with it.

I hope the holiday season has been gentle to you. And if you have friends and family unable to be with you, for whichever reason. Be kind to them and love them, call and check on them. This is a time to truly band together and remember our hearts.

Drink your water, enjoy some chocolate and pause in the night as it snows if you can because I think it’ll cleanse your soul a bit.

What a Week!

Hello readers!! Welcome back! It’s a new week!! Happy Monday to everyone and phew let’s hope this week goes better than the last!! Last week was the longest ever.

It’s been a good week since my last post, I started off pretty hot and heavy here and fizzled out. Kind of my MO. But ah well. Such is life. Last week began with my sister being in the hospital. She’s fine. Not Covid. She went in for severe abdominal pain and had to have surgery to remove her gallbladder. Her liver though was quite inflamed and bought her a couple more days in the hospital. Scary for sure. Thankfully she’s fine.

My writing has completely shut down in terms of my novel, I decided to re-outline what I had written so far and double check pacing. Looking for plot holes and making notes of anything to add. It was a quick alternative to editing what I had written. And it really helped. I’m excited for what’s to come and anxious to see the book come to an end. Book two I’m super excited for, there’s so much history and research involved. It’s going to be a lot of fun to write.

In other news I’m readying my house for Christmas and getting everything prepped and ready for the holiday that is fast approaching. It’ll be here before we know it!! I’m so excited to see my lil dudes face this year!! How are you all handling the approaching holiday?? Getting things ready?!

My other question is this… I see a lot of authors on Instagram use a greeting of sorts, “hey there wayfarers, stargazers, sirens…” is that something you enjoy or do you roll your eyes a bit reading it?! Let me know! Drop a comment!!

Have a wonderful day and week ahead, posting will be once a week unless something pressing arrives and I can’t wait to share it. Drink your water, get the fresh air and enjoy the little moments!!

Writing Slump

Well happy Sunday, or that’s when this is being written so… happy whichever day you find yourself reading this!! Thanks for being here!

This past week was rather interesting for me, I barely wrote for the novel, I barely engaged on social media, it was really just a time of introspection and exploration. Which has been great!! I had some work too which was a lot of fun and I’m so excited to see the final product come together.

Today… today I have plans of writing out a new outline for The Fractured Veil. Which should help me see the holes I’ll need to fill once I’m done with it. But… it should help me bridge to the ending. I’m 25k short of where I’d like to be when I begin editing. While I’m outlining book one, I plan on outlining book two and three. Which should also ensure they flow together properly. Color me excited!!!

On a side note, I’m terrified to share my blog with my peers. 😂 Idk why?! Just like… who would want to read my rambling crap?! Lol. Ah well. Here we go.

I hope you all have an awesome day! Drink that water! Relax and enjoy time watching some holiday movies. I might include some photos of the outlining process. We’ll see!! No promises.

The Fractured Veil Characters

Good morning, if it’s morning for you. It’s 4:41am for me… why am I up…. a toddler of mine went to bed too early, and I have chronic insomnia. A recipe for long nights and even longer days. But that’s a different topic for a different day!!

LETS TALK ABOUT THESE AMAZING CHARACTERS!!!!!

Here is my protagonist, my main male character, Emric.
Introducing my main female character, Arryn.
I’m pleased to present my antagonist, my third main character, Samson.

Through shadow and time, the heart wins out over the mind, under cloaked passions and with tempest connections you’ll find the divine.

Emric lands himself face to face with a red headed siren in a coffee shop on the coast of the Pacific Northwest town of Anacortes. Quickly she challenges his demonic charge as a bounty hunter of souls here on earth. But Emric has a secret.

While working in Anacortes, Washington, Emric must decide if this alluring redhead Arryn is worth altering his entire life for and destroying the only foundation he’s known through centuries of time.

Become a fugitive of Hell while confronting personal demons of his own, buried deep within himself which could sabotage everything or ignore the tugging of heartstrings altogether?

Emric must decide… his existence depends on it.

Stay tuned for more as I slowly reveal more about each one and other aspects of the story. These characters have been such a huge joy exploring and getting to know them. I absolutely love them and think of them throughout the day.

Drop some comments about your first impression of these three!!!

Thanks again! Enjoy your day!!

Balancing Beam

You ever teeter more than you’d like, tipping in one direction compared to another? I do. With life and passion, with dreams and responsibility there is always a balancing act happening. Some days, I don’t feel like I have it together. Like my equilibrium is damaged. First and foremost I’m a mom to a very active four year old, who…